First love, which is never forgotten, love met on the Internet, love that is really just desire. The women entrust the author, journalist Cristina Calzecchi Onesti, with their stories, emotions, disillusions, but above all the many questions, which the psychotherapist, Dr. Fabio Norcia, tries to explain.
Ghosts is a new book, somewhere between a work of fiction and an essay, a varied excursus of behaviors common to most men in couples. These are examples of the many personality disorders that make men not only psychologically "fragile" but often selfish and aggressive. Women must make an effort to learn about them. Not only to defend themselves, but also to implement strategies capable of helping men, who are the other half of heaven, to regain their lost wisdom. It is up to experts in the human psyche and behavior to commit to helping them out.
The heart of the book, halfway between fiction and nonfiction, consists of 12 true stories told in the first person without following a classic narrative pattern (beginning, development and epilogue of a story), but exclusively reporting the emotional part of the sentimental experiences lived by the women who tell themselves through the pen of the author, Cristina Calzecchi Onesti. The rouge file uniting the seemingly very different stories is, on the one hand, the absence of a moment of honest confrontation, allowing the protagonists to choose during the development of a relationship - as witnessed also by the Medieval Novella that closes the review of short stories - and, on the other hand, the final defilement, without much explanation, of the object of their desire, "like damp mist in the morning near the heart of a woman in love." A phenomenon that has been manifesting itself so many times in recent years that it has even given rise, from a jurisprudential point of view and because of its even serious consequences, to the crime of ghosting. Hence the title "Ghosts.
The book's protagonists, underestimating for different personal reasons the signs of the dysfunctionality of some relationships, all become easy prey for the "energy vampires" they encounter. It is to them and to all women in love that the book is dedicated, in the hope that identifying with one or more of the stories can speed up the processes of awareness and recognition of the unfairness of a relationship that is not worth prolonging any longer. To achieve this "therapeutic purpose" at the end of each story is an analysis of behavior by neurophilosopher Fabio Norcia, who explains very well how so many times behind "bad habits" there is actually a psychopathology or personality disorder. Learning to recognize this could mean avoiding many even more dramatic situations, which from psychological violence overflow into physical violence.
The stories consider different types of men according to their social roles, a kind of new "Spoon River" anthology, but of love.
Cristina Calzecchi Onesti, born in Ascoli Piceno in 1962, is a journalist and strategic communications expert. She has worked for TV, Rai and Mediaset, also as an author, written for monthly magazines and online newspapers. She has edited a human rights newspaper and is currently a journalist at La Discussione. She has always covered politics, environment and social issues. For almost ten years she was a spin doctor for House and Senate parliamentarians.Fabio Norcia, born in Siena in 1948, graduated in Medicine in 1976 and later specialized in Pediatrics. He lives and works in Florence. He belongs to the category of neurophilosophers, who study the mind from the findings of neuroscience. He is a member of the International Neuro-Psychoanalysis Society and founded the Cultural Association "Anima la tua Anima," based in Florence at Via Pisana 70r, where meetings are held
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